Diane Choo on “Vulnerability Is Love”

The rose among the thorns!

If I need a counsellor to work with youths, I would be very selective.

Not all counsellors are good with youths, or skilled to work with youths.

I have worked in the youth sector for almost two (2) decades, they are few and far between.

I would like to introduce you to Ms Diane Choo. She has worked in various public schools serving as a youth counsellor to vulnerable youths for many years. Now, she is in a renown Independent School serving the same.

I am really grateful to Diane for agreeing to share her experiences with you. As a Counselling Psychologist, Diane is registered with the British Psychological Society and the Singapore Psychological Society.

Ms Choo will be sharing with us on the following topics:

  • Parenting Challenges
  • Filling The Love Bank
  • Using The Love Bank
  • Building Powerful Relationships
  • Managing Difficult Behaviours
  • Ways Of Engagement
  • Parenting Mistakes
  • Culture And Instant Gratification
  • Learning To Be Vulnerable

Here’s a snippet of the learning video:

For more details of all the learning videos and my book bundle, click here.

Nicholas Aaron Khoo on “Understanding Gamers and eSports”

Heard about eSports? Gaming?

This post is about the person who grew eSports in Singapore significantly! And he was very instrumental in making it a recognized sport in the SEA Games as well!

In the 2019 SEA games, eSports made its debut and we saw Singaporean athletes clinch two medals – Silver and Bronze.

This year the League of Legends (PC), League of Legends (Wild Rift) – Men’s, League of Legends (Wild Rift) – Women’s, Mobile Legends: Bang Bang and Fifa Online 4 teams will be fielded!

Today!!! Two teams will be playing. He will definitely be watching closely.

I am speaking about Mr Nicholas Aaron Khoo!! He is one of the 7 speakers in the #YouthHack Series – Thriving With Youths learning videos.

Photo credit: Masters of AI

Mr Khoo will be speaking about “Understanding Gamers and Esports”. Obviously, right?!

Once a gamer himself, Mr Nicholas Khoo, is now known as an eSports Guru. He co-founded YUP.gg (a gaming and Esports Marketplace) and Singapore’s Cybersports and Online Gaming Association (SCOGA) (an Esports Academy), and he is the advisor to the Global Esports Federation (with Tencent as the founding global partner) and COMBACK (a gaming dependency support agency), amongst many other appointments and accolades.

A father of three, Nicholas is not only a Fellow of the Singapore Computer Society, he is also both a Friend of Ministry of Culture, Community and Youth, and a Friend of the Ministry of Social and Family.

Mr Khoo will walk us through the following topics:

  • Understanding Gamers
  • Positives of Gaming
  • Managing the Challenges of Gaming
  • Empowering Youths
  • Future Trends
  • Understanding Esports

Here’s a snippet of the learning video:

For more details of all the learning videos and my book bundle, click here.

Dr Roland Yeow on “Preparing and Transforming Youths”

#YouthHack Series – Thriving With Youths

That’s the name of all the video resources! There are seven (7) learning videos in total I like to introduce to you.

Photo from “What Are You Doing SG” (WAYD) on Dr Roland Yeow: Innovating at Boys’ Town During Lockdown, July 15, 2020

This second video is by Dr Roland Yeow. He is a former resident of Boys’ Town. After leaving Boys’ Town, he went on to further his education in Institute of Technical Education and then the University to achieve a degree in the Engineering field. He worked in the technical and training consultancy sector before returning to Boys’ Town as a youth worker in 2004 and rose up the ranks over the years. Dr Yeow did his Doctorate in Management with specialization in Organisational Learning, Development & Non-Profit Management. He is also a graduate of the Harvard Business School Executive Education Programme.

Dr Yeow is currently the Executive Director of Boys’ Town, a Youth Organization providing youths with the opportunity to socialize, learn strategies, and skills to cope with their traumas and lives; a veteran youth work practitioner. He is one of the Co-Founders of the Youth Work Association (Singapore). He will be sharing his experiences, insights and life with you.

Dr Yeow will walk you through the following topics:

  • Transforming Lives at Boys’ Town
  • Strengths-based Approach
  • Connecting with Youths (Part 1)
  • Celebrating Success
  • Managing Time and Priorities
  • Making Difficult Decisions
  • Connecting with Youths (Part 2)
  • Challenges of Video Gaming
  • Preparing Youths for the Future

Here’s a snippet of his presentation.

For more details of all the learning videos and my book bundle, click here.

Gillick Competence

Parental rights yields to the child’s right to make his own decisions

In 2013, the Singapore Medical Association (SMA) published the third installment of a series on informed consent articles called Consent in Medical Practice 3 – Dealing with Persons Lacking Capacity. The authors were, Dr T Thirumoorthy and Dr Peter Loke from the SMA Centre for Medical Ethics & Professionalism.

This post aims to capture only the relevant portions pertaining to minors where their informed consent is concerned. According to the authors, “as children and minors are at various stages of maturity, they are mostly financially dependent on adults. This does not qualify them to be fully autonomous individuals for medical decision making. The legal right to give consent for children lies with persons of legal parental responsibility”.

They further mentioned that, “children show a wide range of evolving capacity, depending on their age, maturity level and psychological state. Hence, clinicians should help them understand their medical conditions as much as possible. Even though the legal right to give consent for children lies with those of parental responsibility, the clinicians should involve the minors in all aspects of medical decision making as well”.

I am not sure how many parents or legal guardians are aware, in Singapore, your child is legally considered an adult when he or she reaches the age of 21 years old. However, the legal age to give consent for medical procedures is not defined anywhere in Singapore law. There are no statute law that defines it. The authors reported that, “wherever feasible and reasonable, parents or guardians of minors should be directly involved in giving consent”.

The doctors advised that it is important that minors and children should not have beneficial medical treatment delayed unnecessarily while waiting for parents to consent. While the consent of any one person with legal parental responsibility is valid and sufficient, this decision must be in the best interests of the child. If consent is refused against the clear best interests of the child, the treating doctor has a duty to go ahead with treatment if it is an emergency. If urgency is not of the essence, the clinician can seek a court order for treatment if attempts to convince the parents fail.

Gillick competence in children is a concept in English common law where the parental right yields to the child’s right to make his own decisions (Gillick v West Norfolk and Wisbech Area Health Authority [1985] 3 All ER 402). The doctor has to assess and come to a judgement that the minor who is aged 14 or above has sufficient understanding and intelligence to enable him to understand the proposed procedure and its consequences. If so, the minor’s consent can be accepted as valid. There is no specific legal guidance or criteria for judging capacity in minors and how Gillick competence is determined. Common law jurisdictions, including Singapore, have largely accepted the concept of Gillick competence to date, although this has not been specifically tested in the Singapore courts yet.”

It’s back! It is BIGGER this time! And it’s FREE!!!

Within a week of the launch, we have 500 registrants for the Parents Webinar. We have decided to go up the next tier to 1,000 people on Zoom Webinar. Thank you for spreading the word on this, especially, to those who have benefited from these dialogues previously.

This is not the first time we are organizing the Parents Webinar: Understanding Games, Gamers and Game Dependency. It is into her 5th Edition this year! This year, we are thankful for Tencent’s support so that we are able to make this webinar free for all.

It is happening on the 21 May 2022, Saturday, from 10.30am to 1.30pm. Click here to registered and for more details.

In addition, this year we have undertook parents’ suggestions and added workshops to the webinar, to specifically cater to parents’ needs. For obvious reasons, after the webinars in previous years, there was little follow up on a larger scale. There were many individual-requests for help and support, and there were attended to; but for those who require more group support and skills development, there were none.

Therefore, there are three Parenting Challenge Workshops that have been organized. Please take note of the dates, location and time:

22 May 2022 (Sun) 17:00 – 19:00 – Suntec Convention Ctr 1 Raffles Boulevard Level 3, Summit Rooms 1 -2 Singapore, 039593. For registration and more details, click here.

28 May 2022 (Sat) 10:00 – 12:00 – Heartbeat@Bedok 11 Bedok North Street 1 Class Room 2 Singapore, 469662. For registration and more details, click here.

29 May 2022 (Sun) 10:00 – 12:00 – Heartbeat@Bedok 11 Bedok North Street 1 Class Room 2 Singapore, 469662. For registration and more details, click here.

The workshop is a follow-up to our Parents Webinar. During the Webinar, communication strategies and theories on games and gamers would be introduced. The application of the strategies and theories in a real-life family situation is not easy. Role play is a good tool to help contextualize the strategies and theories for home situations and deepen the adoption of strategies by reenacting them in a safe environment.

For example, role play is used to rehearse the diffusion of difficult situations to prevent confrontations that can jeopardise parent-child relationships. The group size for this session is limited to a maximum of 10 persons as it will be dynamic and interactive. Each session will be conducted onsite in person.

I will be conducting the sessions and putting out common scenarios in families, and through role plays, to illustrate the application of the strategies and theories discussed.

For those who have not attended the Parents Webinar, you are welcome to register but do bear in mind that time will not be spent explaining and going through the strategies and theories again in detail in the workshops, due to time constraints.